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30-10-2023 11:54 AM
30-10-2023 11:54 AM
Struggling
I need advice, I've been told something that is soul crushing, will ruin a relationship and multiple other relationships.
The people that it involves are close to me and it kills me to keep it to myself. I've told no one and I know I was used as the person to unburden another with the information that now I live with daily.
And I find myself hating the person that gave me this information to live with and try to figure out what the right path is.
I also live everyday hating myself because I haven't said anything but I know it won't end well and the person that will be hurt the most I love with all my heart and I couldn't hurt them by telling them but I also know that this person doesn't deserve this or to be walking around thinking everything is alright when it isn't. I worry if I give this person this information I'll be hated by them also for not saying something or the fact that I said something in the first place.
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30-10-2023 12:16 PM
30-10-2023 12:16 PM
Re: Struggling
Hi @Sunnoi,
What an awful situation to be put in, I'm sorry that you're having to shoulder this burden.
Have you spoken to the person who told you about this news, how it is affecting you by having to keep it a secret?
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31-10-2023 03:55 PM
31-10-2023 03:55 PM
Re: Struggling
Hey @Sunnoi
That sounds like hard information to bear. You need to look after you first, do what you need to do to let it go or out. You are better to have a clear conscious than to carry that heaviness around with you. Be gentle to yourself, you didn't choose this.
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07-11-2023 10:53 PM
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Re: Struggling
Dear Sunnoi,
how awful that you have been put in a terrible position. I can hear your pain in your words. Do you have a therapist or someone trustworthy (and confidential) that you can discuss this with to try and work out what to do and how you can implement your decision?
I am sorry for your dilemma as it sounds like it is a big thing. Take care of yourself.
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28-02-2024 09:28 PM
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@Sunnoi hey i feel you❤️. its really hard to keep those secret. Specially when your dad is so close to you. I just got the idea like this. what if your mother change her mind and start living with your dad happily. will she do that? then you can burry the secret forever. If she doesn't, I think the best is to explain her that you have to tell your dad about all those things and the end will be the worst. May be she will understand it. Its just a idea. you can try in that way.
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29-02-2024 01:27 AM
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