Hi @Ant7 .  Sorry to hear of your situation.  It sounds like you do have a connection with your wife, just the timing is a little off?  I don’t think you are alone in having a higher sex drive than your partner, generally speaking I think more men have a higher sex drive than women.  I may be completely wrong, I’m pretty much going by conversations with my husband and women friends, I don’t think I’ve ever heard a woman say she wanted it more than her male partner.  Not that this would help much with your own self esteem, being turned down - I know it played havoc with my husbands until he learned what was behind my rejections.  

I hope you and your wife can continue to enjoy sex, I do envy couples that have that closeness.